Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolent communication (NVC) is a popular method of conflict resolution that privileges unbiased evidence and specificity. It is also a tool for thinking that may help improve the way you communicate, whether it be with family, friends, colleagues.

The Four Steps

1. Observe Facts - observe the specific facts that are affecting our wellbeing, and bring them up with the other person.
2. Note Feelings - introspect about what exactly we are feeling in response to what we've observed, and communicate these feelings.
3. Uncover Desires - figure out the desires, wants and Values that are creating our feelings, and explain them to the other person.
4. Make Requests - ask for concrete actions to help resolve the situation.